Callan, the pixie with tattoos, (she/her/hers) and Leigh Anna, the short haired dame, (she/hers/hers) met in their hometown, Sylvester GA. Callan is a hairstylist at Salon Red in Candler Park and Leigh Anna is at Emory studying the social habits of primates. They love their routines, traveling, and competing to show the other one more love and affection!
How do you identify?
C- I identify as bi-sexual, but I don’t really like that term.
L- I'm the only girl she's ever been with. I'm a lesbian, but I prefer to be called gay. Lesbian is a noun.
How did you meet?
C- We’re from Sylvester Georgia.
L- We have known of each other since I moved to Sylvester in the 5th grade.
C- In the 8th grade, I thought she was the coolest girl in school. I didn’t know her, but I thought she was cool because she could skateboard.
L- And I thought she was a poser because she would wear skate shoes but she didn’t skate.
How did you come into your identity?
L- So, the Pussy Cat Dolls video “Buttons.” You should attach the link. It might help other people realize too! ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DHqC_7gDUdc )
C- And I knew that I liked Leigh Anna and realized that I probably wasn’t all the way straight.
When did you get to know one another?
L- We finally got to know one another in high school. We took two Home Ec. classes in the 11th and 12th grade and we sat at the same table.
C- We tried to remember how we started flirting but we don’t remember. It just naturally happened. We exchanged numbers and at some point it became flirty.
L- It was never serious though. She was way out of my league!
C- On my side, I knew that I liked her, but I knew there was no way we would be together because I would have to come out to my family.
What happened next?
C- Our first year of college she moved up to Kennesaw and I stayed in Albany GA. I actually moved in with one of her best friends so every time she came down she would hang out with us.
L- We even started holding hands out in public. We were like fake girlfriends over the weekend. We each liked one another, but we didn’t want to ruin it or freak out the other person.
L- And I knew I would get shot down!
C- And then I got married.
You were married???
C- Yeah. I spontaneously got married. He was in the military about to leave for boot camp. Some sort of Southern woman thing that was drilled into me decided that I should marry him. I thought I would learn to love him.
L- That was the last time we spoke, the day she got married. She told me, and I was surprisingly heartbroken.
Wow! What happened next?
C- Well, four years later I got divorced and went to her best friend’s going away part. I knew she would be there and I was really anxious that she would hate me or ignore me.
L- And I knew she was going to be there and put together a nice outfit. I thought she was still married, but it was the first time I was going to see her since her wedding day.
Finding out she was divorced was one of the best times of my life. The whole night I kept feeling myself gravitate to her. At some point I heard her say, “Yeah. Divorced.” And I zoomed through the people and said, “Wait! What? Say everything you just said again!” She said again, “Yeah. Divorced.” And suddenly she was attainable. So, I scooped her up like a ground ball!
C- When in reality I was always attainable! We count that night as our anniversary. The next morning, we started to talk about marriage. Six months later we u-hauled. As cliché and gross as it is, it’s always been her.
L- It’s probably the Lesbian national average!
So what was it like coming out?
C- Well, I’ve recently starting the coming out process. I told my mom first. She was always suspicious of Leigh Anna and would ask me if I was bi-sexual.
L- I’m kind of the town gay so anyone that was in proximity to me was suspicious.
C- The rest was pretty easy. I’m super fortunate. I made it casual and everyone just kind of went with it.
L- And I came out in the 11th grade to my little sister after my first Pride weekend. My sister just laughed and told me she already knew. My other sister responded the same way. Telling my parents was a little more dramatic. My mom started crying and I cried because I made her upset, but then I said, “Wait, mom, is this really a surprise?” And she sniffed, looked up, and said, “Well, no.”
Do you have any coming out advice?
L- I think a lot of people pressure you out into coming out, like National Coming Out day and what not, but I don’t like that. It's a lot of pressure. Especially if you live in a small town. The other thing is that you can’t leave it on the back burner and forget it. It’s important to come out.
C- Yeah. Do it when you feel ready and do it slowly. Tell your best friends or sister first. Gather that support then find the confidence to tell the harder people.
What are you passionate about?
L- I love my job and my work but I think I’m becoming passionate about my future. I don’t know why I want to say this but finances. Like getting things straight and planning for the future. She has sparked my interest in that. I heard it’s really hard to buy a house. So lately, I’ve been passionate about cheating my way into a house for us and planning for our future.
C- At this point in my life, authenticity is something I am really passionate about. Finding out who you are and just being who you are and not giving a shit about what other people think. And just being so true to yourself that it inspires other people to do that for themselves as well.
What do you hope for the future?
L- Kids. Probably kids. Did you think I was going to say that?
C- I didn’t know what you were going to say!
L- Also finding out where I can live. I have an unusual expertise and I don’t want to move my kids around. I really don’t know any more future plans. We have our plates full with that!
C- Yeah. I would love to be a successful stylist in Atlanta. I also want the normal American type of stuff. I want a house, and kids, a career, and the chances to travel.
L- Yeah, the normal American things.